I think most people can relate to the fact that I have a list.
Not just any list.
You know. The one that is filled with the desired traits/interests/dreams/appearance of the man that I some day want to be with. That list.
For as long as I can remember I have had a very specific list. To spare you I won’t write down everything. But it was just a lot of appearances, and likes, and dreams, and so on and so forth.
Let me start by saying that I’m not here to hate on the list.
Everyone has a type.
Whether it’s a look, or a personality trait, there is always something there in someone that immediately attracts you to them.
For me it’s always been if someone is kind. Which surprisingly enough hasn’t been too many people.
Of course we are all drawn to different people for different reasons and that is totally fine. God created each of us differently and with that comes different preferences and attractions.
Honestly, I think that having a list is fine. Depending on what is on it.
For me, my list became so specific that honestly, I don’t even think any man could have ever checked off every item, not even Jesus himself.
Today I was talking to my friend about this guy that I have a crush on. Immediately I started listing off all these things that were on my list that he didn’t have or do. And it hit me that maybe he doesn’t have to have or do those things.
I think that I got so caught up in what my human mind would want, that I failed to even ask God what he thinks would be good for me.
I have this huge list of things that I want in a potential guy, and honestly if I met a man with all those things but he wasn’t the right person it still wouldn’t work. Just because we want something it doesn’t mean it’s good for us.
This is not me saying that we need to lower our standards and take things off our list.
It’s simply just me saying that I think we need to take a minute and ask God what he sees for us.
God created us and he knows us, he knows the desires of our hearts. I think taking a look at the list with a God perspective and choosing what the actual important items are, the deal breakers if you will, is what we need to be doing.
Think about it this way.
God could have this amazing man out there for you. He’s kind and sweet and makes you laugh and actually treats you like a human, and you don’t want to give him the time of day because he isn’t tall enough. Or he doesn’t look like your type normally looks. Or he isn’t a musician. Or he isn’t….blah blah blah.
You could totally miss out on the right guy for you because you’re too focused on a fictional character that you’ve made up in your mind that doesn’t really exist.
Are you going to let yourself miss out? Or are you going to decide what’s important and then go for it?