This morning I woke up with my bun on the very top of my head and at least half of my hair had fallen out from the bottom.
In that moment, I knew it was going to be a bad hair day.
My hair was greasy, and my part was now, thanks to my bun, indecipherable.
I finally got ready and did my best to style my hair, ending up with it in a pony tail.
I did my make-up and I picked out my outfit for the day.
Feeling fine with myself, I made my way across the property to the camp office and began my weekly task of cleaning the office.
I was sweeping when one of my roommates walked in to ask me a question.
As they were making their way out the door they stopped and said “you are having a good hair day. What’s different?”
And then I say hesitantly, “It’s in a pony tail.”
“Oh.” He replied, “I like it. You wearing make-up?”
“Yes.” I say.
“Lipstick?” He asked further.
“Yup.” I reply, now just completely taken aback.
“I like it.” He said and then turned and left.
As I continued sweeping I felt my “feeling fine” mood lift off of me, and I felt full on happy with how the day had turned out.
There were two things that I realized through this experience.
One being that you never know how someone is feeling about themselves. I was feeling basically crappy about how my hair looked today and then now I feel great.
Because someone went out on a limb and decided to compliment me, I instantly felt better. So we should never hold back when trying to encourage people.
Two being that people see us very differently then we see ourselves. We are our own worst critic, and somehow sometimes we don’t think good things about ourselves, when on the opposite end people could think the world of us.
We could think we look crappy as hell, and then people tell us that we need to keep doing what we’re doing because we look great. What even is that?
As I begin to walk out this newfound confidence in the fact that I am totally and completely ridiculous when it comes to overthinking my appearance, I hope that you realize that people see you very differently then you see yourself.
So when you look in the mirror just remember, what you see is not what everyone else sees.